Ministry, Health, and Family Update, November 2015

Noel and Meryl in Orlando, FL

Noel and Meryl at Epcot Center in Orlando, FL

This update is long but we hope you will take time to read it – probably a few paragraphs at a time. The last update was towards the end of August. We will try to update you more often, even though it is difficult to make time to do so during really busy times.


“We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”
2 Corinthians 10: 5; New International Version (NIV)

The verse above is one of the foundational verses of the Welcome Home Initiative (WHI). It encourages combat Veterans to see themselves from God’s perspective in a new, hopeful and resilience inspiring way.


More ministry increases budget for FY15/16

Ministry has been busy since we last updated on August 20th. As mine and Meryl’s health has improved this year, opportunities multiplied and we submitted an increased budget to ACCTS for the fiscal year from Oct 1, 2015 to Sep 30, 2016. We are now praying in the extra resources so as not to be limited in the ministry we believe God leads us to do.

Praying and Speaking at Chaplains’ Conference (August)

At the end of August, three days before it started, I was encouraged to receive about 60% of my budget for a Chaplain’s conference at Orlando examining the use of inner healing prayer in combat trauma wounds. These are the often unseen wounds to the soul caused by a Soldier doing something in a situation which offends their personal moral values. Every one of us is susceptible to this sort of wound, as we are to post-trauma injuries which cause us to react in a variety of ways to an unnatural event of life. Soldiers experience PTS in combat-like situations and its effects are more visible than soul/moral wounds.

The training itself was nearly cancelled due to lack of numbers and funds, but several of us encouraged the military bishop of the denomination organising the conference to go ahead as we believed this was the LORD’s will.

I was able to lead the other 9 participants in discussions about moral injury, post-traumatic stress and inner healing prayer techniques.

It was a joy to help an active duty Navy Chaplain find peace in his soul from a traumatic armed robbery he had been the victim of some years ago. When I saw him again last week he said, “I’ve still got peace although I haven’t forgotten about the robbery. I’m able to think about it now without re-experiencing the fear, anger and shame I’ve had for so many years.”

Welcome Home Initiative at Greenwich, NY (September – November)

For much of September and October I beavered away preparing for the Welcome Home Initiative retreat I was to lead in November at the Greenwich, NY Christ the King Spiritual Life Center.

It was an enormous blessing to have the expert help of two ladies, B and M, who administer the busy Healing Center there. They talk in depth to the Veterans seeking to attend the WHI, ensuring the medical, psychological and spiritual needs of those coming are accurately known about. I talk personally to any Veteran that B or M are not certain about.

For this WHI the beautiful, patriotic quilts were lovingly made by local quilters. The prayers shawls given to the spouses were once again made by H, a dedicated local knitter. Both were a huge, sacred blessing to all!

Much of my time was spent preparing the host team; and encouraging them, myself and others interested in WHI to help raise the necessary funds to provide $300 scholarships for every combat Veteran and spouse (if attending) who comes to a WHI retreat. We bless them with free food, accommodation and helpful materials as our way of saying “thank you for serving and welcome home”.

This year many individual, generous donors and at least three churches gave just over $11,000.

We don’t know the final cost of this year’s retreat but are hoping there will be a small amount left over as ‘seed’ money for next year’s retreat.

By the way, the WHI retreats run by Rev. Nigel Mumford and BHW ministry are completely and separately funded to any WHI taking place in NY under the auspices of the Episcopal Diocese of Albany, which uses the WHI materials under licence from BHW.

Attended ACCTS Staff Meeting (October)

For a week in mid-October! Meryl and I were very blessed, refreshed and encouraged to attend the annual ACCTS staff meeting at an Officers’ Christian Fellowship retreat Center in south central Pennsylvania, called White Sulphur Springs.

This year’s meeting was the best for several years. There were good daily Bible studies, prayer times and detailed ministry reports from 8 or 9 areas of the world, including some experiencing significant political and social problems.

The long friendships and some new relationships shared by the 55 of us there was very special, especially several of more than 20 year’s duration.

Welcome Home Initiative Retreats in NY and VA (November)

Now it’s November and Thanksgiving is a week away!

Before coming to Boston this week for routine medical checks, all of which went well, we were heavily involved in two back to back WHI retreats. The first was at Greenwich, as already mentioned. The second, under the banner of BHW, took place based on Galilee Church in Virginia Beach, VA. l led the first and Rev. Nigel Mumford the second.

Meryl played a vital role at Greenwich, helping with the spouses ministry as well as overseeing the decoration of the chapel for the closing service. She also organised a beautiful and much prayed over quilt for every first time retreatant. She was on Granny duty at home during the second retreat.

To enable Noel and two other team members being at both retreats meant a 600 mile drive in 10 hours, sharing a car. We started driving an hour after the Greenwich retreat ended. We made it to Va Bch in time to get an adequate night’s sleep before the second retreat started.

Both retreats were extremely blessed and successful.

The Va Bch retreat was the largest yet of the 21 carried out since starting in March 2008. A total of 39 combat Veterans and 10 spouses were ministered to at both retreats.

There was a lot of visible healing and blessing, most often seen by the change in retreatants facial expressions and body posture by the closing service compared to the first lunch.

More often the healing seems to be hidden, or ‘undercover’. Memories are healed, especially through prayer, including inner healing. Veterans telling their story, whichever one the Holy Spirit brings to their mind, are healing moments. Anointing with sacred oil, including of ‘trigger’ fingers, and the pronouncement of forgiveness and absolution brings huge closure from past suffering, breaking the chains of trauma that have been internalised, often silently, for many years.

It is tempting to outline some of the specific areas of trauma experienced by the Veterans at each retreat and to tell some stories, but to do so would break the strict confidentiality we promise those attending. Any Veterans’ comments included in this update have been authorised by them. It is wonderful that Jesus really does heal all those who come to him in faith, even if it is only a little ‘mustard seed’ of faith. One Iraq and Afghanistan Veteran, as he talked about his healing, simply said, “Thank you for this week.” That was and is a sufficient enough comment!

Endorsement as Lay Chaplain Enhances ACCTS Ministry

November 17th, was the second anniversary of me being commissioned by the Jurisdiction of the Armed Forces and Chaplaincy (JAFC). The JAFC is the military ‘diocese’ of the Anglican Church in North America (ACNA).

It is beyond doubt that this endorsement has strengthened my credibility and the building of trust with Chaplains and Veterans as Meryl and I care for them in our busy ministry as ACCTS staff.

We would love to offer our ears, shoulders and hearts to these folk and their families every month, if it were ever possible to organise retreats in that way. Our ministry principles of listen, love and pray are so much appreciated by those we interact with.

Ministry with Anglican Armed Forces Jurisdiction

As we plan prayerfully for 2016, my role as Prior of the non-monastic ‘out in the world’ Order of St. Martin of Tours (OSMT) will take a higher profile as I pastor the other 9 Lay Chaplains located the length and breadth of the USA. I accomplish this mainly through phone calls and electronic media but in early March I will be helping lead a training academy for existing and new Lay Chaplains near Birmingham, Alabama.

Several other Lay Chaplains minister in Veterans Administration or State Veterans hospitals and other facilities and this is an outstanding blessing to us all.

It is also an honor to remain a member of the Executive Council of the JFAC, responsible for praying and overseeing for the rapidly growing Jurisdiction which has over a hundred Armed Forces and Veterans Administration Chaplains.


Health and Family Update from Meryl

Noel’s health has continued to improve this year after the nasty setback that occurred after our long overseas trip last December and January… and at his last check up this past week in Boston all his blood and other tests were normal.. Praise the Lord… Sadly he still has to be on medication for the GVHD but it seems to be keeping those awful mouth sores at bay and hopefully he will finally be off the steroids by the end of January… we so hope so… His next appointment is January 8th.

I, Meryl, have felt increasingly fitter this year although prone to tiredness. I think that’s just old age more than health related! We have both tried to renew our fitness regime, mostly walking, and try to follow a healthy diet. Both my cardiologist and my PC Doctor are happy with my ‘numbers’, so I guess I’m on the right track..looking after my heart and diabetes.

Family-wise, both son’s and their families are continuing to do well… the grandchildren are of course growing fast and branching out into more after-school activities.. to keep themselves and us busy !!

We are having a delayed Thanksgiving this year. Toby and JoAnn and the girls are attending a cousin’s wedding on Thanksgiving Day so we will celebrate together as a family on Sunday 29th. We have much to be thankful for – the list is endless! For example, this December 20th Noel and I will celebrate 45 years of marriage.!!!

Christmas then approaches fast… and we plan this year to have our day with the family at our house on Boxing Day (26th as it’s a Saturday and no one has to rush back to work). We like to let the children stay home to enjoy Christmas Day and open their Santa presents in their own environment whilst we have a quite day.

We wish you all a Blessed Thanksgiving and a Christmas full of the joy of the Lord …. Also, a Very Happy and Healthy New Year in 2016 to you and all those you love.


Please pray…

We’ll give more detail of planned activities in 2016 in our next update. Meanwhile:

  • Praise for my and Meryl’s improved health during this year.

  • Praise for all that has been accomplished in the ACCTS Chaplains’ and Veterans’ Care Ministry this year in spite of ill health for the first six months.

  • Praise for the growing credibility being a Lay Chaplain endorsed by the JAFC of ACNA.

  • Praise for the pastoral leadership blessings brought to me by being Prior of the Order of St. Martin of Tours (OSMT). Pray for a successful training academy in March 2016, and Jurisdiction annual convocation in April.

  • Pray for wisdom for Noel as a member of the JAFC Executive Council and as he sits on the boards of By His Wounds, Olive Branch International and the Council of SASRA (a Christian formation and growth organisation working with British Army and Royal Air Force Chaplains and service men and women).

  • Pray for the Alpha Course and its derivatives to once again thrive in the military environment. Noel remains a volunteer advisor to Chaplains and lay leaders aspiring to run courses.

  • Pray for Noel and Meryl’s relationships with each of the partnering organisations mentioned above and many others they cooperate with.

  • Pray for advanced plans to start a regularly meeting combat Veterans support group locally in the Glens Falls area. A combat Veteran friend will lead it with my help. We have a place to hold the group. Now we need Veterans, and a schedule.

  • Pray for plans for WHIs in 2016. Pray the two with firm dates (late October at Greenwich; early November at Virginia Beach) will be blessed by abundant registrations and finances.

  • Pray for our aspirations to come to fruition to hold a female combat Veterans retreat; and two or three shorter WHI type of retreats at the Greenwich, NY Spiritual Life Center, or locally elsewhere if they cannot be scheduled there.

  • Pray for things mentioned by Meryl in the rest of this update.


 

Thank You! Thank You! Thank You!

Thank you all so much for your prayers, practical help and financial support. We depend on each of you as we minister with ACCTS in accordance with their ministry model that each staff member raises their own support for their ministry.

Here endeth the update!

Mid March update from Boston and Glens Falls

The LORD is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and he helps me. My heart leaps for joy, and with my song I praise him.” Psalm 28:7 (NIV)

Snow Melt in Glens Falls

Snow Melt in Glens Falls

The first couple of weeks into March have seen an improvement in our weather. We now feel like Spring is arriving! We hope the last snows have passed and the ground cover is melting. The days are longer and the temperatures warmer. Still pretty chilly with below average temperatures, but much better.

Noel’s blood work has also shown an improvement. With 3 out of 4 liver readings now being back into the normal range. This is such a relief. We praise the Lord and thank you for all your prayers… Last week we returned to Boston again a room at the Hope Lodge opened up at the last minute so we were thankful for more answered prayers and not to have to pay for a hotel room.

Noel had appointments for blood work and to see the oral doctor from the Brigham and Women’s, Dr. Treister, and to see Amy, Dr Soiffer’s PA… Noel’s mouth, although improved from the beginning of the year, is still extremely sore. Eating, drinking and even, at times, talking is difficult. Dr Treister said to continue using the mouth rinse 4
times a day and he would also prescribe a couple of Steroid injections directly into Noel’s mouth. Which may or may not help. Noel had the shots on Wednesday afternoon but now, a week later, he has not seen much improvement or relief, which is very disappointing.

View from Yawkey building at DFCI

View out from the waiting area on the 8th floor of the Yawkey building at DFCI. Helicopter pad on the roof of Beth Israel Deaconess Hospital on the other side of Brookline Avenue.

Amy was pleased with the good liver function results and lowered Noel’s Prednisone dose again.. It will take a few more months to get off it all together… But it’s moving in the right direction. The slight concern with the sugar levels in Noel’s blood tests in the last few weeks, Amy said was due to the Steroid and they often see this but also expect it to right itself as the dose is reduced.

Please continue to pray for the sores in Noel’s mouth. Which are no fun he longs to eat more than soup, protein shakes and soft food, as even these, and even water, cause pain to his mouth.

Pray also the cold/chest infection/cough he has at the moment also clears up quickly..

We are back to Boston for his next appointment on April 1st. Please pray again for our accommodation needs on the 31st March and 1st April and for our travel there on the 31st March and back on the 1st April, in time for Meryl’s next appointment with her cardiologist on 2nd.

Noel will now write about the second part of our trip… the ministry part.

A lovely blessing has developed as a result of the last Welcome Home Initiative at the Spiritual Life Center that Noel led last October. One of the Iraq war veterans who came and received substantial emotional and soul healing, told us about a Christian Healing Center that had been established in 2013 at Ashburnham, north west Massachusetts. Noel was asked to visit it and advise the folks that run it about how to get ministry to traumatized combat Veterans going.

The original plan was to go in January but this was scuppered by Noel’s illness. We were thankful to God that we could make it on this Boston trip.

Ashburnham is about 1.5 hours drive from the City.

A meeting was arranged for Wednesday afternoon. Frustratingly it did not happen. Spiritual warfare of a kind took over instead. We were delayed at Dana-Farber Cancer Clinic by a silly mixup, described in our Facebook posts that day. We were further delayed by extremely heavy traffic around Boston and Concord. Concord is where the first battle of the American Revolution against us Brits took place in 1775. We almost felt events were conspiring against us again, at least spiritually, and didn’t get to the Healing Center until after 5 p.m.

We discovered our meeting had been postponed until the next morning, so the Holy Spirit redeemed the situation in a good way, as He promises to do! Our hosts readily understood the predicaments we had just gone through!

After a very pleasant overnight stay at the lakeside home of a Center leader and her husband, five of us met on Thursday morning, praying and talking about WHI and ministry to Veterans. The Veteran who came to WHI is already visiting a Veterans Home, beginning to build relationships with some of those living there. We encouraged him to keep going in this ministry. It will surely be blessed. Please pray for Dave’s ministry to be abundantly blessed.

We encouraged our hosts to send several suitable members of their prayer team to the WHI Training Weekend we plan to run at the SLC on August 28/29. The weekend equips suitably “called” Christians how to pray in depth for traumatized Combat Veterans.

We talked about possibly running a training weekend for the center later this year or in 2016.

Finally our hosts were excited, yet challenged, by feeling a strong desire to run a full WHI at a nearby facility possibly in 2016. Would we at the SLC be willing to send team members to help? “Yes, of course we can and will, at least until you are confident enough to run retreats without us,” we said.

After such a hope-filled and positive meeting, we drove home through the lovely snow and tree covered hills and valleys of Vermont and New Hampshire on a cold but extremely beautiful sunny day. We felt richly blessed to be a small part of what we feel is the growth of a new Spring, which is, in fact, already flowing and simply needed recognition (see Isaiah 43:19 – a word from God that we were first alerted to when we started ministering in Eastern Europe in 1993/94). God did some amazing things back then. What, we wondered, will He do here, now, in the Ashburnham area? Please pray for the outcome of this new exciting, potential-filled ministry venture.

We love to hear from you, we are very blessed by your love for us. We love to read your comments left here and on our other web pages and through other means of communication. We pray for you so please let us know your prayer needs. And please do give thanks to The Lord for every blessing of which there are many in our lives.

Happy New Year and News from Glens Falls!

Dear friends and family

Meryl and Noel in South Africa

Meryl and Noel in South Africa

It is now 2 months since my last update… And much has happened… We left the day after Thanksgiving for our trip to South Africa and to spend Christmas and New Year in England… The trip went well we had a fantastic time in both countries with many blessings and answered prayers… much to share and talk about from Global Interaction, sightseeing in such a beautiful location and time with the grandchildren and other

At The Angel of the North

At The Angel of the North

family members. I could write a book! But all that now seems far behind us, as we arrived back in the USA on Monday evening with Noel feeling very much under the weather as the old saying goes.

Even before leaving home in November Noel had been experiencing some troublesome recurrence of sores in his mouth, a symptom of the Graft Verses Host Disease (GVHD) that has bothered him from time to time since the stem cell transplant, now 2 1/2 years ago. During our trip the sores continued to become more and more bothersome and painful, making it difficult to enjoy much of the delicious food he loves, he put on a brave face and complained little. But by last week even eating bland soft food had become difficult as the sores now covered his whole mouth and inner lips… he was also showing some other signs of GVHD, a skin rash and a lot of digestive discomfort. Noel then developed what we thought was a bad cold and cough..

By the time we boarded the flight home on Monday he was not at all well feeling very poorly. Thankfully we had Tuesday here at the Hope Lodge in Boston for him to rest all day. Unable to eat, even drinking Ensure through a straw was very painful. Wednesday morning we went for his regular appointment at the Dana Farber Cancer Institute. Dr Soiffer was visibly shocked to see his condition and ordered numerous tests. Called the head of the Oral Surgery Department at Brigham and Women’s Hospital, Dr Treister to look at Noel’s mouth… He has prescribed a new medication mouth wash and ointment, which will hopefully bring some relief from the pain. Noel’s liver functions are all over the place and he tested positive for a virus, RSV (Respiratory Syncytial Virus) which is particularly dangerous to newborn babies and anyone with a compromised immune system such as Noel… no wonder he feels so very ill. He is being treated with a 2 week course of antibiotics and has to be seen back at the Dana Farber next Wednesday.

Hopefully by then the virus will be much better and they can better access the GVHD and decide how to treat it. They are reluctant to rush back into prescribing steroids as these in themselves have lasting side effects and consequences. But whatever they decide it’s going to be weeks before Noel is anywhere back to normal. He is exhausted.

As you can imagine all this is frustrating for Noel as this new year held so much promise with new Ministry opportunities and a full calendar of events. All of which are on hold at the moment.

So please pray this is a journey with twists and turns, mountain tops and valleys… we do not loose sight of what The Lord has done for us giving Him thanks and praises as we hold on to His promise that he has good plans for the future. We are a little discouraged but not downcast. Pray for relief of this pain which Noel described to me to day as torture for the virus to leave him, and for the GVHD to subside. For renewed strength. But also for patience for both of us to get through the tough times.

We are looking forward to being home in Glens Falls. Seeing our friends and family.

We pray you all have a blessed year ahead… Please do keep in touch with us… We did not send out traditional Christmas or New Year greetings… But we want to be in contact with you. God Bless you!

Transplant Day plus 7

It’s a week since the transplant.

Super early start….had to be at the clinic for 7am. A blessing they have muffins,tea / coffee and fresh fruit. Noel can eat fresh fruit only if it has thick skin…so he had an orange…he is missing fresh fruit and salads.

Blood counts first….no real change. When we saw the Doctor’s NP she said they did not expect to see any real change till around day +12 and his very low counts are normal…also feeling well below par is normal…..today white cells the same at .9 ( point 9) 3.8 to 9.2 is normal
Red cells 3.24 yesterday 3.1 normal 4.2 to 5.6. The 2 units made a little difference. And platelets today where 13 from 9 yesterday they should be 155 to 410 !

Noel did not need red cells today just got a unit of platelets and his white cell boosting injection, which untill I reminded her the nurse almost forgot to give him!
NP prescribed a prescription medicine for the itching and rash he has from low platelets and a sleep aid to help him sleep, fatigue with no sleep is not good.

Question was asked in one message from friends about Noel’s neutrophil level quoting the normal UK counts…. Not sure the system for measuring is the same here ( I know measuring my diabetis is way different between the two countries) but Noel does have Neutropenia hence he is getting the shot of Neupogen daily to help encourage the growth of new white cells. Today his white count was 0.9 when normal range is 3.8 to 9.2. So has little or no resistance to infection right now. Hence all the different antibiotics he is taking which in themselves have unpleasant side effects that he is having to deal with…….. But every day is one day closer to the 100 on the year’s road to recovery….

We are so enjoying reading messages posted by friends we have not seen for quite some time ( years) it is amazing how the word has got out and through the wonders of modern technology we can be in touch
again..

We are always sad to read of others who are on their own journey with cancer or other health issues and we are keeping you in our prayers. For full healing, strength and courage as you fight the battle. Remember FROG. Fully rely on GOD……

Such beautiful weather here, sunny and warm, hot in the sun….although we are not in it. Here at the Hope Lodge they have a large stand with tourist brochures, there are so many interesting places to see…I am looking forward to the day we only have to come back for 3/6 or 12 monthly reviews and maybe then we can play at being tourists…..

God Bless you all for walking this walk with us….the Lord’s rod and staff comfort us and your friendship encourages us, thank you.

FUNDRAISER: Songs by Alan Hart

FUNDRAISER: Songs by Alan Hart

FUNDRAISER: Songs by Alan Hart

On THURSDAY, JUNE 28, at 7PM Deacon Alan Hart will present a benefit concert in the sanctuary of St.Mary’s Episcopal Church in Lake Luzerne, NY to help Noel and Meryl Dawes.

Noel is battling a serious illness, and he and Meryl could use our financial and spiritual support as they go through this difficult time. The concert is free, but a freewill offering will be taken and all proceeds will go to the Dawes family to help with out-of-pocket expenses which are mounting.

Deacon Alan will sing many of his own songs he has written over the years, including “Chestertown,” “You and I, You and Me” and “Psalm 23.” Come and join the fun!